the habit of being_6.12

 
It’s been a busy last few days leading up to this much needed, much welcomed three day weekend (poor Mister has been tasked with cleaning out the storage area to find the stash of cloth diapers — I bet you can feel his excitement from where you sit).

My days have been full of shuttling children around, meal prep, laundry, and all the while I’ve had the day’s prompt at the back of my mind, turning, turning. By the end of the day this mama has wanted nothing more than some quiet, feet up, hand on belly, watching this, and knitting a few rows.

In the midst of life and all the turning over of prompts, I was struck by the way the prompts from the last few days work together. How becoming a mother conferred on me the ability to explore my history and stories in a new light. When I ponder my past I see motherhood as the pivotal moment, the breaking open of my heart, the loosening of the chains I had allowed to confine me to thinking of me, my pain, my struggles. I can see the many failures of the adults that should have done and known better, the ways in which I was set adrift. And yet, it is those very things, those very people that played a role in who I am today as a woman, a wife, a mother. It’s odd to consider that years of hurt and pain led me to this place, this wholly good place, where I am fully present, loved and loving, and enjoying an obscene amount of laughter with my tribe but damn, it’s been worth it.

 
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  • Our past forms us but never defines us. You sound like you are in a good place and I hope you enjoy the three day weekend! My house is full and I’m in the midst of meal prep, company coming cleaning (toilet swilling). Oh I do love the busy!ReplyCancel

  • I think about that a lot, the past, its pain and who I am today. Maybe because of my past the way I process most things in my life is by eliminating what I don’t want, and that is much of how I was raised/the foundations that were set and the choices I was given when I didn’t have a say.

    And I think those things that have occurred have given me a very strong foothold on what I do want, which makes this life, my life, so beautiful.ReplyCancel

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      agreed kristen! i’ve become quite good at setting boundaries and letting people go — i know what i want and i am thankful i’m *finally* able to go after it, no apologies.ReplyCancel

  • Last month was our 21st anniversary, and marked the point at which I have been married for exactly half of my life. And the latter half is without question even better than the first.ReplyCancel

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      i love hearing this, lisa! my married years have definitely been the best.ReplyCancel

  • This is beautiful Amanda and it is so wonderful to hear that you are in such a good place…you actually made me cry (with joy). Have a great weekend with the ones you love xReplyCancel

  • amanda, it’s always such a pleasure to read your words about motherhood, family, and the journey that life carries us through. thank you!ReplyCancel

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      thank you nichole!

      on a side note, since i’ve seen your name pop up here, i just wanted to check and make sure you rec’d the invite to the dropbox folder we set up for you. if not, let us know :) ReplyCancel

      • i haven’t received it yet. thanks for checking!ReplyCancel

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          Really? We sent it the day we received your submission. Will go ahead and resend it — you might check your spam folder. It will be coming from submissions AT kindredmag DOT org :) ReplyCancel

  • I’m so sorry for the pain of your youth Amanda, but I smile now when I think of you with your loving family, you deserve nothing but happiness.
    Have a beautiful weekend and I hope the Mister is okay.ReplyCancel

  • Sometimes I’ll choose one moment in my life (mostly a not-so-good one) and think about it and wonder if that moment didn’t happen how it would have changed my life. Often I end up deciding that I’d keep the moment (as if I really have a choice in the matter!) in favour of all the good things that came of it in the end (crappy past included). Becoming a mother for me most definitely had a profound effect on my ability to begin my journey in healing the past. In fact, I was only able to reach out and connect with my own father (after 20 years of estrangement) after my first was born. And my past – it’s given me many ideas of how I want to change things for my own children.
    Hoping your Mister finds his way through the storage area. If it were our house that would be a mission of extreme (possibly life-threatening) danger. I’m not sure what all lives in our storage room.ReplyCancel

  • Such a lovely, contemplative post. Really enjoyed it. :) ReplyCancel

  • Yes,my husband calls it “breaking the chain.” Not carrying forward the things that didn’t serve us as children.

    this made me laugh:
    (poor Mister has been tasked with cleaning out the storage area to find the stash of cloth diapers — I bet you can feel his excitement from where you sit).ReplyCancel

the habit of being_the fever

 

I received a copy of The Fever for review and it came the same day I’d read this listing it as a contender for book of the summer 2014.

The Fever is the story of a close-knit family living in an idyllic suburban community. Loosely inspired by the mass hysteria story reported in LeRoy, NY, The Fever tells the story of Deenie and her friends, Lise and Gabby. Lise is overtaken by a strange fit in class and subsequently hospitalized. Her medical crisis becomes a point of speculation by those in the community as more girls begin to succumb to the epidemic. The not-knowing is what drives the story forward; more and more girls succumb, while Deenie lives in fear of succumbing herself. Meanwhile the boys treat it like a joke:

“You’re all going down.” The other boy laughed, beats thrumming through the open mouths of his headphones. “One by one.”

While the school attempts to keep the concerns of parents and students in check, both medical and police officials get involved to ascertain exactly what has happened at Dryden High. As the girls around Deenie fall victim to the mysterious disease, Deenie becomes a source of gossip and people begin to question why.

Abbott deftly writes about community, secrets, and the helplessness of a town in crisis. The story is about the dark and secret interiors of a teen girl’s psyche and conveys the minefield that is the politics of high school girls.

 

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Thanks to the good folks that sent me a copy for review, I’m giving away one copy of The Fever. Giveaway is open to US residents only. For a chance to win the giveaway copy, leave a comment. Winner will be chosen randomly and contacted by email Tuesday, July 8th.

ETA: my random number generator (also known as the wee lass drawing a name from a hat) has selected Shari as the lucky recipient of The Fever. Congrats Shari!

 

  • I was just looking at this book at the store. I was very interested in it, but did not pick it up at the time. I hope you enjoyed it.ReplyCancel

  • this is totally up my alley.

    PS. hope you are well!ReplyCancel

  • I would love to have my name added for a chance to receive The Fever. It looks like I will be here alone for a lot of July so there will be plenty of time for reading.ReplyCancel

  • Sounds interesting!ReplyCancel

  • Shari

    I’d love a chance to win. Have heard great things about this one.ReplyCancel

  • Your description here has a Virgin Suicides vibe to it. So interesting!ReplyCancel

  • I took the kiddos this week to a new local bookstore near us. It was such fun, although it is not easy on the wallet! Thank you for all your book recommendations.ReplyCancel

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      i know, heather! i wish it was a more affordable habit ;-) ReplyCancel

  • Annette

    I’m always on the lookout for a good read!ReplyCancel

  • Jen

    Sounds gripping!
    It made me think of the Lyme, Connecticut area and how things may have spiraled out of hand there in 1975 if things had been handled differently.ReplyCancel

  • Wow, that book sounds fantastic! Definitely going on my to-read list. Thanks for the recommendation! xoReplyCancel

  • Brigid

    I appreciate your recommendations and this sounds like another one that I would enjoy. Thank you!ReplyCancel

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July, I am so glad you’re here. May and June were rough. R-O-U-G-H. As I crack the cover on this new Moleskine and turn the page on the calendar*, I pray you will be kind July.

No more talk of the nasty ‘C’ word for a while in this house, no more spots needing to be removed, ok? I’m tired of needles. And car problems, lordy, can we just get a break on the car stuff? And special prayers and graces are needed for the friends’ baby born at 23 weeks and still in the NICU, for my sweet friend who underwent two major surgeries in two weeks to rid her body of cancer.

Go gently July, pretty please.

 
PS: Are you ready to quit thinking about writing and actually write? If so, registration is now open for Write Now | Summer 2014. Are you an under-employed creative needing to pay in installments or in need of a sliding scale? Get in touch!

* Each time I post a photo of the month’s calendar page, I get inquiries about it’s source. I bought it from here.

 
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  • Stephanie Bonin

    Yes July, can we please be calm? We need a restorative span of time.
    Much love to you Amanda…ReplyCancel

  • I hope July is a more amiable month for you Amanda and your two friends too…such tough things to go through. Life can throw some real curveballs, can’t it? Take care.ReplyCancel

  • Joining you in prayer for your intentions. I have a dear uncle who is going through a lot health wise and the ripples that extend from him to those who love him are felt deeply. Prayer is the gift my mother left me and I treasure the calmness it brings.ReplyCancel

  • Yes, please, may July be bette for everyone, especially you and Stephanie, and that little NICU one and the mama. <3ReplyCancel

  • Oh, love. I wish you so much ease this month.
    xoReplyCancel

  • Gentle July – feels fitting. I pray you will find peace this month.ReplyCancel

  • wishing you peace and joy and good news for all the months ahead.ReplyCancel

  • I pray that July is a gentle month for us all.ReplyCancel

  • Amen to that! I’m with you, it’s been a rough couple of months. Keeping fingers crossed for July to be a lovely one. Jumping over to the July prompts. Hope your have smooth sailing the rest of the year.ReplyCancel

  • Wow, yes. Praying July is as peaceful as the lovely photo above. Gentle joys to you.ReplyCancel

  • Keeping you in my prayers Amanda and wishing you a gentle, peaceful, un-eventful July with no curveballs! XOReplyCancel

the habit of being_june reads

 
Of all the books I read in June, I can without hesitation say this was my favorite.

SHAPIRO
The Art Forger had all the makings of a good, suspenseful read but fell a bit short. Don’t get me wrong, it was enjoyable enough but I felt like some of the characters were a bit flat and I expected it to be a bit meatier. The best parts of the story were the bits that went into detail about forging a painting.

FULWILER
There has been much chatter about Something Other Than God so I caved and purchased a copy. Having never read her blog I wasn’t sure what to expect from her book. It came across as a bit of spoiled girl whining — giving up all the first class travel, moving out of the luxury condo, and in with her mother while her husband gets his law firm off the ground — and immediately turned me off so know, this book and I started off on the wrong foot. And of course there is the fact that every single quotation in the book was done incorrectly. Seriously. Example: “So you’re getting way too bogged down here”, he said.” Can anyone explain why that comma comes after the closing quotation mark? Drove my inner editor and grammar geek absolutely crazy. In short, it’s another conversion story, not even entirely unique, it’s overpriced and overhyped.

CLAYTON & LAWLER
I picked up and read snippets of The Little Oratory throughout the month. The material is straight forward but there is a lot of it and it’s a book that one should take one’s time with.

MUNRO

“Kallipareos. Of the lovely cheeks. Now she has it. The Homeric word is sparkling on her hook. And beyond that she is suddenly aware of all her Greek vocabulary, of everything which seems to have been put in a closet for nearly six months now. Because she was not teaching Greek, she put it away.

That is what happens. You put it away for a little while, and now and again you look in the closet for something else and you remember, and you think, soon. Then it becomes something that is just there, in the closet, and other things get crowded in front of it and on top of it and finally you don’t think about it at all.

The thing that was your bright treasure. You don’t think about it. A loss you could not contemplate at one time, and now it becomes something you can barely remember.”

― Alice Munro, “Chance” from Runaway

Something about it being summer and me being pregnant and frustrated by the disappointments of The Art Forger and Something Other Than God meant I needed something I knew would be worthwhile and full of excellent writing. I picked up Runaway and thoroughly enjoyed every single story. Then I picked up Dear Life and spent the better part of a few sunny afternoons outside under the shade of the magnolia tree reading these stories – a different collection than Runaway to be sure but still meaty and thought provoking.

What have you been reading?

 

  • Thank you for this! I’ve seen so many blogs loving on Something Other then God that I almost caved & bought a copy. But I read her blog a few years ago and eventually stopped because a lot of what she said just didn’t hit me right. Nothing bad, I just didn’t care for her style.
    I have Benediction here to read thanks to your post. Right now I am readin the Interestings. Only a few chapters in and I’m enjoying it so far. I also have been reading The Little Oratory here and there. So much to take in I can only read a bit at a time.
    I did start to read The Lumenaries but got almost 200 pages in and I just couldn’t get into the story. I don’t know why, the story kind if dragged and my mind just wouldn’t focus. I hate leaving a book but I found myself not reading anything and I’d rather read. So I brought it back to the library.ReplyCancel

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      Jen, You stated my issue with SOTG quite well. Now that I’ve perused her a blog a bit, I realize it would never have been a good fit.

      As far as The Luminaries, it was slow going for me at the beginning and took a while for me to get into it. Even once I was, I found it to be a different sort of reading experience, it demanded to be read slowly. Maybe at some point in the future you’ll pick it up again and find it a better fit.ReplyCancel

  • Regarding the commas with quotations, was it a British edition? If the quotation marks were single (inverted commas), that would be my guess, since the Brits have different rules with end punctation. This confuses my students all the time.

    Thank you for your reading updates! I’ve just finished Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey and reviewing A Concise History of the Catholic Church and Catholicism: A Very Short Introduction to help me decide on texts for a course I’m teaching in the fall. I”m also about to read Jane Smiley’s Ordinary Love and Good Will and Thomas Cahill’s How the Irish Saved Civilization.

    Also, Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? is on heavy rotation, along with a book called Moo. ;o)ReplyCancel

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      Cindy, I loved Cahill’s book. Read it many, many years ago and then again in the last few years. And oddly enough, it wasn’t a UK edition — I’m used to all sorts of odd punctuation as I read French/Italian/Spanish but this one being a book pub’d in the US threw me and put my grammar nerd into a snit ;-) ReplyCancel

      • I get the grammar nerd feelings. Bad (copy)editing has honestly been enough to turn me off to more than a few volumes!ReplyCancel

  • I had The Art Forger on my to read next list and now I will probably cross it of the list as I truly value you opinion. Runaway? I will give it a try.ReplyCancel

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      Tracey, pass on The Art Forger and dig into Munro!ReplyCancel

  • The Art Forger is on my list. I wonder if I should bother with it?

    I loved The Language of Flowers (thanks in part to your review) and am reading The Homemade Life, a food memoir, which is very enjoyable. Just started The Bird in the Tree by Elizabeth Goudge. Not sure where the story is going yet but like the writing.ReplyCancel

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      I loved The Homemade Life! And uhm, I’m not sure I would recommend bothering with The Art Forger unless you already own a copy and don’t have anything better to read ;-) ReplyCancel

  • I’ve been knee-deep in tutorials for software program I am trying to learn to use. You have inspired me to “get out of there!” and read a good book. :-)

    Have a great weekend!ReplyCancel

  • I am gathering my summer reads. Wanting to read some Munro but not sure where to start.ReplyCancel

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      Juliann, I’m not sure it matters where you start, really and truly. Her stories are wonderfully crafted and I think you’ll enjoy them!ReplyCancel

  • I’ve been re-reading Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman. I’m a sucker for creepy literature!

    One of my other summer favorites is The Enchanted April by Elizabeh von Arnim. It’s simply luscious.

    But the biography of Hildegard of Bingen is calling from my shelf, I think…ReplyCancel

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      Interesting reads, Sarah! I haven’t picked up any Gaiman for a while; maybe I should remedy that.ReplyCancel

  • Janet

    The Little Oratory is on my wishlist. I wish they had a copy I could borrow at the library.

    I am journaling my writing prompts and loving the quiet time as I write. Thank you for supplying them :)

    I am reading Simple Abundance. I like the short devotions and propels me into writing in my journal.

    Have a beautiful weekend.ReplyCancel

    • admin

      Janet, my library didn’t have it either (they take forever to get new books) ;-) So glad to know you’re enjoying the prompts!ReplyCancel

  • I am reading Undaunted Courage which is the journey of Lewis and Clark. Loving it! I read right before I go to bed, if I read until my eyes start closing it’s like taking a sedative and I sleep so well all night.ReplyCancel

  • Since finishing David Copperfield, I’ve read Tinkers (did not like at all) the story was okay but wasn’t thrilled with the writing, I guess. Now I’m reading Interestings, and so far the book is uninteresting….but I only just started so maybe it will pick up?? I read Dear Life, I did enjoy reading a short story collection and some of them were quite thought provoking, I like feeling like I was lost and being hand held through the story by her writing to the ending, then going “ahhhh” now I know :) ReplyCancel

  • I have been in and out of several books lately. I’m just beginning Glossolalia by Marita Daschel and find it fascinating. I will finish Haruki Muakami’s Sputnik Sweetheart today. It’s been a strange trip, but I’ve liked it. I have only 23 pages to go and have absolutely no idea how it will end. I’m also reading a little book by Tod Davies called Jam Today: A Diary of Cooking With What You’ve Got. I will soon return to a quiet book, Field Notes From a Hidden City: An Urban Nature Diary. I was just at the beginning when I put it on my night table and let it get buried beneath other books. I had to put down Raymond Carver’s What We Talk About When We Talk About Love. I wouldn’t typically call myself a wimp, so this was somewhat surprising. I was about halfway in and found it too disturbing. Perhaps I had unrealistic expectations after reading his book of poems, Ultramarine. I really liked them. They were different. Lastly, I’ve just opened Virginia Woolf’s Between the Acts, her last novel. I’m a little nervous about Between the Acts. I feel I’m intruding in some way. The note at the front of the book says she had completed the book, but it had not been fully revised for printing. A lot could have changed during those revisions. I’m not sure she’d want it out in the world as it is, yet I was still intrigued and purchased it. We’ll see how it goes. Enjoy your July reading.ReplyCancel

the habit of being_6.22.14

 

The wee lass has a summer cold (thank you Mr. for bringing it home). This is her second bout of being under the weather ever. I was up front watching this (which by the way is really good if you’re into British tv) and I heard that unmistakable sound of her choking so I rushed in to find her sitting up in bed, choking on mucus (I know, I know, sorry), sat down to comfort her and she thanked me by promptly heaving right into my lap. I think it took her by surprise because outside of baby spit up, this is a first for her. She was shaking and crying and making it difficult on Mr. trying to clean her up and change her pjs while I changed the sheets.

After getting a load of laundry going, I cleaned myself up while he settled her back into bed with her babies. I walked into the room and the girl that had been a mess of snot and tears, was propped up on two pillows, singing brightly. She stopped to give me a very enthusiastic, hi mama!, and went right on back to singing a rousing chorus of let it go. As I settled in and curled around her, she made me tell her babies goodnight and kept up a steady stream of conversation before sliding into sleep, purring, her little belly rising and falling under my hand, and I was struck by how my love for this girl has changed and grown in two and a half years. I know it sounds silly that a mom of five might be having this realization at this stage of the game but there are moments in this parenting gig where everything is crystalline and clear and you see things afresh. That realization led me to consider how my heart has grown and expanded five times over and has done so uniquely with each child and I was reminded of how much I’ve grown right alongside them.

PS: I’ve been toying with the idea of disabling blog comments for months now and recently read a great piece on the subject which I shared here. I’d love to know your thoughts — would you feel it hinders you from reaching out to me? Would you find it liberating?

 
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  • Love the image- speaks volumes with her dolls and cozy bed. it’s amazing how have children shapes and molds us into the people we are today…the patience I have, that I didn’t.
    I read the “comment” article and I thought it is very poignant- something I wrestle with too, I guess I never looked at turning off the comments to allowing myself to be more creative and not to care what others might comment- instead I felt I was cutting my self off from the world. But after reading I think it sounds freeing! Do what feels right to you Amanda, we could always email you- so you can be reached. I have a neighbor you turns her comment off on some posts and on for others…
    Either way I enjoy your words and it’s part of my morning read.
    xoReplyCancel

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      camilla, i had no idea of what patience was until i had children — it was a foreign concept.ReplyCancel

  • I am in the process of trying to reboot a daily writing habit and have also consider disabling the comments function in an attempt the create a space to write just for the act of writing. I think it is an idea that merits consideration. If I read something that stirs me to respond, there is still email. I wonder if the immediacy of the comment function causes me to give a quick response before I have really thought through my reaction. It seems your post has been a trigger for me morning.ReplyCancel

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      juliann! so happy to see you popping up, miss seeing you around the interwebs.ReplyCancel

  • I haven’t read the link yet, but I think if your heart is telling you to turn the comments off then do it, it won’t stop me from visiting. I leave my comments on because it’s like having friends drop by, if I didn’t there would be days when I had no human contact at all.

    Your post today is beautiful, I felt like I was in the room watching everything unfold and could actually see your wee lass drift off to sleep. Great gift you have my dear. :) ReplyCancel

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      ha! i definitely hear where you’re coming from tracey! there are days the only contact i have with people above the age of 12 is online ;-) ReplyCancel

  • I love your daughter’s resilience. It is inspiring.

    I turned off my blog comments several years ago and was left with an empty feeling. I turned them back on. This is what works for me. When I read Melissa Camara Wilkins describing how she found herself writing to her blog audience, rather than writing what she knew she was meant to write, I understood how that could be a problem. I do a lot of off-blog writing that does not involve comments. If my blog was the only place I wrote I could see this being an issue. My blog feels more of a social space. I enjoy the interaction.ReplyCancel

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      excellent points, denise. i don’t feel that i write to my blog audience, i find my writing is fairly consistent across the board. will definitely give it some more thought.

      and yes to resilience. i am ALWAYS amazed at how quickly children bounce back and wonder why we adults don’t have the same luxury.ReplyCancel

  • I would feel that a dialogue was being cut short by not having comments. But do as you see as best. God bless you! and how beautiful, that moment of clarity you were given!!!ReplyCancel

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      thanks for the input, elizabeth. i like the idea of disabling them and yet, it does feel as though the conversation is one-sided and frankly, i know so many of those in real life i certainly don’t want to be that person online!ReplyCancel

      • Yes, I hear you; I love dialouge too! Thanks for visiting me/my blog today also. I hope today is a good day, with God’s peace!ReplyCancel

  • Oh, poor wee lass! This parenting gig is amazing. It is at the wildest moments that I pause, savor and marvel at what we have. My mom and I were just talking about favorites (she has been accused of having a favorite). It was interesting to talk about how we love each of our kiddos to pieces, but sometimes the love manifests differently. All equal but given how it is needed. I do love chatting with you, but disabling comments also gives me a reprieve. At times I feel I must join with a comment to let you know I still visit.ReplyCancel

  • I read, but don’t comment regularly, but when I want to, having comments available makes it more likely I’ll leave a note. If I have to open up email, it’s probably less likely I’ll make it a priority, unless, of course, what the writer has said demands a response (like a death in the family).

    That said, as everyone else has written, this is your space and you have to do with it what makes you happiest.ReplyCancel

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      sprite, that was the drawback (at least in my thinking) — that people might not as readily connect if they have to go to email/twitter/fb to do so. thanks for your insight!ReplyCancel

  • To have comments or not to have comments on a blog has been one of those things that I’ve been going round and round with myself on… I haven’t been writing much on mine for a variety of reasons, and I’ve toyed with the thought that maybe the reason why I don’t feel like openly writing has something to do with the fact that I’m getting immediate feedback, but then when I try to imagine shutting them off entirely… I feel like I’m just isolating myself and I’m no less fearful of how my words might be received. So for now, I keep them on unless there’s something I need to say that I feel strongly doesn’t need anyone else’s commentary.ReplyCancel

  • A beautiful post Amanda, really, it made me a little teary with a slight spoonful of longing, but my boy fills my heart full to the brim and for this I am beyond thankful. Glad to hear your wee one is feeling better and singing…the resilience of children never ceases to amaze me! : )

    I read the article on disabling comments and this, I feel, is a very personal choice. I am all for comments, not for affirmation but simply for contact and connection with amazing people. But, as others have already said, if this is what you feel is right then you should do it. I will still read your lovely words regardless.

    Jane xReplyCancel

  • I turned my comments off a few months ago, because most of the time, I simply post an image. I still visited and interacted as I always had, but found that it really distanced me from so many wonderful people.

    As of just today, I have decided to turn them on when I post a tutorial, or a more “wordy” post, but when I simply post an image, I will leave them off. I think this is kind of a happy medium for me.ReplyCancel

  • I am in awe that you snuggled after the upset tummy….that is hard core mama love ;) My son was the child that would throw up from too much mucous…bleh…. Now onto comments and such. I love comments BUT I have no children to chase and herd and have way more free time. I think you should do a trial period and then reassess and see if it makes you happy. Or you could pick a season where there are no comments….or you could allow comments once a week. I think it’s endless in the possibilities.

    What is important is what YOU want. If you feel the tug to turn them off, why and how would that nurture you? So full support from me here-but personally I love the comments section :) (I would visit no matter what, Amanda)ReplyCancel

  • Aww sweet baby wee one. I hope she feels better soon. How are you doing, mama?!
    Here’s my thoughts on shutting off comments. I won’t do it. I love the connections I make through blogging (I’ve made some great friends and collaborating partners). They read my story or words and they comment or email. It becomes a convo. I feel like I attract a special audience of women & I love hearing their take on a post. Comments have been a good experience for me. And if there are none on a post? I don’t fret about it… I’m bubbly. I like to interact and talk with people. The number of comments does not make or break how I feel about a blog post.
    xo BReplyCancel

  • An additional thought on the comments question: so many of the sweet connections I’ve made online have happened WITHIN the comments sections of blogs whose writers I feel a real kinship with. Of course you do not owe us this space, and I will show up to read your words regardless. But the comments sections on particularly thoughtful writers’ blogs tend to be filled with other equally thoughtful people – it’s like a wonderful dinner party or cafe. So I would really miss that!ReplyCancel

  • Aw, hope wee lass feels better soon!

    As for blog comments, I like them. I do feel it hinders me from reaching out to the author if they’re gone. But it’s a very personal choice based on what the author does or does not want to accomplish. But I love the little community that happens here, Amanda, and I’ve loved “visiting” some of your readers here and I find them through your comment section, of course. I’d feel the “community” aspect would diminish. But regardless of what you decide, I’ll always be eager to read whatever you share!ReplyCancel